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Old May 10, 2009, 08:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Brian37 View Post
sunrise wrote: He was so good at relationships and helped so many with their marriages, and he
just seemed so f**king functional. It made me feel that if he couldn't have a successful marriage, then no one could. Why even try. Certainly I could not succeed if he couldn't. I just felt what was the point of anyone at all marrying if T couldn't get it to work. We were all doomed to failure.

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If you are feeling the same way I did, then it could be very helpful to talk to your T about this. He really helped me a lot by how he mended this. He gave me back hope.

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Originally Posted by imapatient
I'd think in many ways it's a benefit of sorts. Having a T who's been through serious relationship problems should make it easier for her to understand some of your issues first-hand.
I agree with this. Now I am really glad my T has gone through a divorce because he has so many insights into what I am going through. Our failed relationships have a lot in common, and this has helped me.
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