I have spent a lot of time with T talking about our interactions and our relationship. It felt really strange at first to let those little random thoughts come out, but with each thought that I can express to T about our relationship in the room, it seems to impact the rest of the relationships in my life in a positive way.

I don't know if this is the case with everyone, but for my therapy T says it is all about relationships. The relationship I have with him, with myself, as well as with other people in my life.

I believe that emotions are expressed through our bodies. When we get stuck in trying to intellectualize or suppress our emotions, that is where much of the suffering comes from.

My work with T has also included a lot of focusing on how my body feels. Often when I'm feeling stuck, he will ask me how my body is feeling. I take a few moments to check in -- notice where there is tension, or a feeling of energy in my chest, or whatever my body my be feeling at that moment. It can be very powerful stuff, but it does require that you feel safe with T.

IMHO, attachment is about feeling safe. You trust that T will be with you no matter what you express, and that your *relationship* will not be harmed by expressing anything that you might be experiencing. Speaking only for myself, I did not have that level of emotional safety growing up, and so it is by having that safe space now with T that I am able to let all of myself out (or at least try to ).