(((((MissC)))))

When I read that, I too am sad because I don't think my youngest daughter has attached to me. I have tried to be a good mother and I don't know why she hasn't been able to (or wanted to) attach. I have tried to be loving, trustworthy, and "safe", and have not been abusive. Recently we've been in therapy together to work on our relationship and have seen some small gains. I do have a habit of shouldering all the responsibility for a relationship myself and am trying to unlearn that. Maybe the lack of attachment is not my fault. Maybe there is no blame. Maybe sometimes attachment just does not occur. I think the challenging relationship with my daughter gives me more empathy for my mother and her difficulties being a mom. I am pretty much content now to just think about my mom in this way: "she did the best she could." That is what I am trying to do too. When I read a post like yours, MissCharlotte, it gives me some chills anticipating the future. Some day in the future, will my daughter go to a therapist and work on her poor attachment to her mother?