Hi, I do not believe that your marriage is doomed. But, I must say that the area of sexual fantasy is one we all should be careful about, especially with spouses. There is a book, written years ago, by Nancy Friday, called "My Secret Garden." It came out in the '70's. In it she speaks with women about their sexual fantasies. Very interesting. Nancy Friday tells a story about a time she had sex with her date and he asked her later what she was thinking of during sex. She, openly, tells him she was thinking about having sex with an entire football team. Without a word, though obviously furious, he jumped out of bed, dressed and left, slamming the door behind him. You see what I mean? Just know that what you say can mean different things to different people in a relationship. I hope this helps. Kate1218 (new member).