Hi Diana,

Good to see you, hope all is well.

Have you made progress with Pat in those four years? Do you see healing on the horizon or are you just sort of going to therapy because "you know you need too."

When I find myself with such big decisions to make, I usually leave it up to M&M's to help me decide. I get a piece of paper and a pen, a bag of M&M's, (if it's a major decision I get the family size) find a quiet spot where I start to weigh the pros and cons.

If you like the therapy approach of Karen, slide an M&M into her pro column. If you don't like that she can only see you on Mondays at 3:15, slide one into the con column. You get the drift.

Maybe this won't work for you 100%, but at least it will get some of your thoughts out where you can see them. Sometimes it helps make the decision process less confusing if you can see it in print.

PS. The above works well with Cheez-Its or any snack of your choice.