tough choice to make re: T

I never thought I would want to change T. But recently my regular T pat had to go out for hip replacement surgery and she asked if we would mind seeing Karen. Karen is not unknown to us. She was the one who actually refered us to Pat almost 4 years ago. At that time Karen was working at the rehab we were in and Pat was a working in private practice. We were very sad to leave Karen but knew she had to say good bye because she was not a family therepist. It wasnt untill recently when we began seeing Karen again as a temp T that we realized there was a hole left when we began seeing Pat. Dont get me worng I love Pat and she is great but for some unknown reason there has always been a hole. One I did not realize till now. Now Karen told us that Pat will be coming back in about at week or so and that we have a choice to make. Continue seeing Karen who now is a family therp. or return to seeing Pat. We have only been seeing Karen for about a month or so but the idea of leaving her really bugs me on a level I can not explane. Part of me says we should go back to Pat after all she has been there for almost 4 years. But part of me says stay with Karen and work on a level that is different then that of Pat. I am looking for some insight here on what to do. My AA Sponser wants me to find a T who deals with DID but I am not upto that. I have a level of comfort in dealing with these two ladies and dont want to start all over again with someone I dont know just because they deal with DID. Both of these ladies know that I am DID and Karen suspected it from when she worked with us at the rehab and that is why she refered me to Pat. I must say that I like the fact that Karen has met my family when we did family sesions at the rehab and I like that. All Pat knows is what I have told her and to be honest I am not sure what that is.

Please help I need some input here.

Thanks Diana host of the Clan

Hi Diana,

Good to see you, hope all is well.

Have you made progress with Pat in those four years? Do you see healing on the horizon or are you just sort of going to therapy because "you know you need too."

When I find myself with such big decisions to make, I usually leave it up to M&M's to help me decide. I get a piece of paper and a pen, a bag of M&M's, (if it's a major decision I get the family size) find a quiet spot where I start to weigh the pros and cons.

If you like the therapy approach of Karen, slide an M&M into her pro column. If you don't like that she can only see you on Mondays at 3:15, slide one into the con column. You get the drift.

Maybe this won't work for you 100%, but at least it will get some of your thoughts out where you can see them. Sometimes it helps make the decision process less confusing if you can see it in print.

PS. The above works well with Cheez-Its or any snack of your choice.

I toatally agree with OB on this one. I can't really make a suggestion either way because even though you've posted these things I don't know the situation personally.

I I agree with the two posts above me! Orange Blossum's idea was cute and sounds like it'll work (AND, you can eat the food as you're doing it/when you're done!). Like Kaika, I really don't have advice for you--but I send you all big, warm safe hugs and wish you luck in making your choice!
(Dance)Erik