It's hard for me to give a specific example (that wouldn't take pages and pages!), but yes, there have been many times that I've been able to lean on T through really difficult stuff, and he truly has given me exactly what I needed.

I have learned, though, that the best way to get exactly what I need from T, is for me to TELL HIM exactly what I need. Which is hard and kind of scary, especially at first. But when I tell him what I need, he's really good at giving it to me, and it's good practice for me for asking what I need outside of the room (a skill I really did not have when I started therapy).

I am probably making it sound too easy...this was a huge, painful struggle for me. I've had lots and lots and lots of appointments where I didn't have ANY idea what I needed, and once I figured it out, it would sometimes take me an entire session (or more) to spit it out. I'm getting a lot better at identifying what I need, and I can usually ask for it, but not always.

I do know though, that T can't know what I need unless I tell him. I wish he could!