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Old Sep 04, 2009, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted by rappacinisgarden View Post
Well, I wanted to share something about this... I have met someone casually "online" and I haven't been looking for it. But we just started talking and talking and talking... I am starting to feel so attracted to this guy since I sense he is really nice. We have not developed sexual chats or anything but He always sais he likes me and could keep talking to me for a long time. I feel completeley kind of "in love", though I am consciouss of the limitations(since we do not know each other in the real world yet)

Our conversations have been very deep and fun... We have talked about literature, poetry, music, and lately our daily life things, like small details of family members, or just talking about life...

I am so glad to talk with him, and I feel(he has told me) we have a sort of attatchment, I am very happy, but at the same time I feel so dizzy!!! Last yr I left a long relationship(8yrs), I had to move places, and so many things, that the least of things I wanted to do is develop a relationship so quickly, but I see that here I go again, lol.

I cannot express in words what I feel with this person, I know I can not call it love either, because I think love truelly develops in real life... But, I can say that yes my feelings are true, and that he is honest. We do not connect everyday, I think this is important(though I wish we could, lol) to keep real life a little. But I just talk so much to him, and I admire the simple stories of life that we share, and also our own relflections on life. Also, this person has sent me pictures, has showed me websites he shares with a brother, but has never tried to get me on webcam. Little by little we show each other... I think this is sane and decent, as to say it somehow. Samll glimpses of each others life, knowing each one of us that it could be real or ot. Joy and not sorrow, craving to expect the next words. He is genuinely winning my heart!

Is this infatuation? Well, I think that any relationship, online or not if it is not taken to real life will never truelly be a relationship... That's bottomline. I reccomend to really listen to waht the other person has to say, to share and le live. If u listen intently, you will know the other person in thoughts, which is very important, and u could take the next stop to actions.. But always bcareful, and check on yourself(should apply this to myself lately ), be consciouss and patient because u never know... And be honest most importantly, If u sense that someone is not honest, just leave it....

I don't know if someone could help me with this... but I have a doubt. I have been feeling low in my self esteem, and I doubt so much of myslef, ans I am afraid that if one day I see this person if I could allow myself to love him because I have low self esteem. I do not want to harm him with my low selfesteem... He is starting to mean a world to me... And I know myself in this sense, if I ever like him for real or fall in love I would just go to him at the end, lol Is this crazy??

Hi rappacinisgarden

First, thank you so much for this post and sharing your own experience. I relate to a lot of what you say here but will respond, if you don't mind, to your comments of low self-esteem.

I also have incredibly low self-esteem and worry about it in every relationship, even just with friends. But I think you could perhaps help yourself by focusing on one thing? This man truly seems to enjoy your company, even if it is just online. So, if he ever asked you if you felt ready and able to take things to the next level (i.e. meeting in real life) ...then regardless of how you view yourself, he obviously feels you are worth being with! That is the thing to focus on, I think. Having low self-esteem (or a low opinion of oneself, little confidence in oneself) does not mean you are a bad person to know or be with!

And I truly wish I could give you tips on how to boost your self-esteem but I'm still working on that myself. However, you may already know, we do have a self-esteem/self-improvemnet forum here which may be of help to you?

Peace to you,
Julia
xox