Hi anyone,

I have a wonderful husband, we are very different people i'm a science person his art's and language, he picks at the little things with OCD and i understand them all, and i'm more accepting of differences. however there is a 27 year age gap, i know that sounds a lot but everyone how know him thinks he is 15 years younger than he actaully is. and our friends think we a great couple and don't realise there is a large gap. We also have a baby boy.

My father, has never spoken to him, he did come to the wedding but said some really bad things in the speach really upseting my husband and my father inlaw etc... My father will not come into our house, when we visited them last in 2007 we were not allowed to stay in my parents house, even though they live 6 hours from us. he gave evils to my husband all day. All my family were there cusions ungle aunt etc.. (15 of us) when my husband spoke to my father he eventually looked at my mum and replied to her. and he spent most of the time out of site. this was the day we told them we were having a baby.

I know before we started going out that my dad would not approve we got engaged after only 5 months, but waited over 1 year before getting married thinking that would give my dad time to accept it. we then thought that maybe after we are married, then maybe once he know he is getting his first grandchild. then after the baby was born but no luck yet.

my husband is finding it really hard, and i'm scard that he will never want my son to meet my father. or maybe my father will never come around, but if he does i want the option for him to be a part of our family to be there. it's horrid for my mum torn between her grandson and her husband not know which to favour. everyone else in the family all accept and like my husband. and i know my mum is terrified that this will spilt the whole family up, when we have always been such a close family until now.

i tired to talk to my dad telling him how much my husband means to me, how much i love my father, and how much it hurts me that we are in this situation (this was before the wedding) a few days later my sister told me off for upsetting my father. and my mum says 'how is this hurting you'. they just don't seem to see how hard it is for me, i have really tired to understand how they feel, but i should have to stop my life and be sweet 16 again just to make my father feel happy again.

anyway just wanted to know what someone else thought.