Thank you all for your strong support. I know i can do this. The first time she knocks on my door and i do not respond will be the hardest. I met with her yesterday to tell her it is best for her safety and mine not to have contact. She played the pity card, but that is not going to work anymore. She does not realize when her boyfriends money runs out he will be back and she is desperate enough to take him back. He loves to inflict emotional pain and i do not want to be around for that. The whole situation is just sick, sick, sick. She is going to have to learn to live with the bad choices she makes. I guess what would help would be to remember last time i tried to help her he waltzed in and had her off with him in less than ten minutes of listening to his charm and lies. These are all giant red flags. I told her to get some therapy but she will not so i will not be able to talk to her.