My T has made a real effort not to give much eye contact (he says I'm threatened by it, which is accurate) and he has rarely asked for me to make it--only when he wants to make a point of showing that he's not angry or judging me when I fear that. I have done months and months of sessions talking to the window or his feet or, as I got braver, his reflection in the window!

Several years into the therapy process, I am finally able to sustain eye contact for a few seconds at a time. I like it, when I can toelrate it. It makes me feel more cared about. That's a hard thing to accept, though, so I often break my eyes away quickly.