I have said several times that maybe once I would like to come home to dinner already cooked or the house cleaned or even a bubble bath....anything. I don't even know how many times I have straight up said "this is what I need from this relationship". But he feels that buying me things is mutually exclusive with being nice. And I also can't stand that he makes demeaning jokes towards me. Every once in a while its funny but not every single day. he will make jokes about how I should be in the kitchen and he's the man so he owns me and stuff and always says he is joking but I'm starting to think deep down, he really thinks that. It takes WEEKS of me begging him to help me for him to do the dishes. And when he does them he is pissy and still asks me to help him. Took me over a month to get him to cook dinner and he made tortellini.....I'm not sure if you're all aware....but this requires opening a bag, putting it in a pot and letting it boil for a few minutes. He thought that this was major. And then I CLEANED UP! He still asked me for help the whole time and i'm like....seriously.....you can't put pasta in a pot?!

I told him that, to make him realize everything I do, I will go to the extent that I will go hungry for a day. If I have to starve to show him everything I do I will do that. One day I said I'm going to come home, sit on MY laptop and watch sportscenter and see how long it takes for him to realize there isn't food in his lap and the house is dirty.

Ugh, I'm so livid with him. And he LOVES being the bad guy! He says I treat him so horrible but every time I ask what I'm doing because I sincerely don't want to make him feel bad he goes "oh you're right, you're perfect, you don't do anything" but then tells me I treat him like crap? I think he feels that me complaining to him that he doesn't do anything is my way of treating him like crap. And I have told him, maybe if you would just listen, I wouldn't make you feel like crap! And I'm to the point that when he apologizes I don't even care anymore. I'm just through. i feel like I have been screaming my lungs out saying what i need from him and never EVER get it.