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Well, I don't know for sure of course, but just going by what you wrote about her reactions here, and to me, I had a different impression entirely. I understand why you think it wouldn't help to ask her what she was thinking b/c she would just deny it...but I will say many of my most difficult times in therapy have come from misunderstandings, from me thinking my T was thinking one thing and her saying she wasn't. The only way we've resolved them has been to address what I'm thinking she's thinking. For me, and it seems for a lot of others who have posted in this thread, confronting misunderstandings and working through them has ultimately led to increasing the relationship and comfort level and, I think, been therapeutic. Of course, you have to choose when you're ready to do this, because confronting some of the expectations you have about what someone else thinks about you can be really really challenging in the moment, but it may pay off in the end. Good luck, sitting.