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Originally Posted by notme9
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Well, I don't know for sure of course, but just going by what you wrote about her reactions here, and to me, I had a different impression entirely. I understand why you think it wouldn't help to ask her what she was thinking b/c she would just deny it...but I will say many of my most difficult times in therapy have come from misunderstandings, from me thinking my T was thinking one thing and her saying she wasn't. The only way we've resolved them has been to address what I'm thinking she's thinking. For me, and it seems for a lot of others who have posted in this thread, confronting misunderstandings and working through them has ultimately led to increasing the relationship and comfort level and, I think, been therapeutic. Of course, you have to choose when you're ready to do this, because confronting some of the expectations you have about what someone else thinks about you can be really really challenging in the moment, but it may pay off in the end. Good luck, sitting.  |
I completely agree with this - I wouldn't be where I am already if I hadn't worked through misunderstandings with my T. And at last week's session, T told me how important it is for us to keep working through those misunderstandings (that's even the word she used!).
I have told T a few things that have brought up a reaction in her. I think sometimes, she was empathizing - like clucking her tongue when I was griping about something my mother had said that made me feel awful. One time, I told her of a violent childhood memory, and I caught a flash of a horrified look on her face - that kinda threw me, because I didn't think the memory was that bad, but apparently she did if she had that kind of reaction. And then another time, I was extremely low and told her of some sui thoughts I'd had - we were doing EMDR, so we continued with it, but I heard her inhale sharply. So I think T's are human, and they will definitely react to what we tell them.
SAWE, I hope you can bring up with your T her reactions, especially if they are negatively affecting you.