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Originally Posted by polarsmom
This is basically what I'm feeling towards my T. I like him. He's a nice guy. And I enjoy being in his company. I am comfortable with him like that, and feel that we kinda look at things the same way. Having an outside person to talk to about issues is refreshing. And I feel better afterwards. But I can feel myself getting attached to him. I know that once I do I will take things personally. My feelings will get hurt. And I know it won't be on purpose. But I get that way. And I know that this is a discussion I need to have with him ahead of time. Otherwise he'll probably be wondering what the hell is the matter with her?? LOL
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This is a great convo to have with him. It is these kinds of feelings and discussing them with t that have lead me into deeper places. And he sounds like a safe t to have this conversation with. I would definitely tell him about your fears of becoming attached. It might sound strange, but if I had a male t, the transference would be out of control for me. I dont think I could handle my feelings and Id have to have a pretty tolerant and understanding t. As far as ftt is concerned, I dont have these attached feelings. And somehow, I think there is a reason for it that I dont yet know. I keep my distance? But I feel safe. I am holding back? But Im delving into things. Maybe Im over thinking the relationship. But if it were a male t, Id be attached from the very first nice thing he said to me. There is something to be looked at there, not sure what.