I'm slowly getting this message too. Parts of me have embraced this concept but... some other parts have not. This week I told my T that one minute I feel security attached and connected to people and GOD, then a second later a shift occurs and I feel like I am alone and rioting in hell with no chance of escape. I've posted about the profound experience my inner child (and me I guess) recently had. It was through an interaction/relationship with another that I had this experience. I agree with your comment that healing cannot be done alone. We might need to be the main force working to bring it into being, but it comes from making connections with others.