Hi sw, I just wanted to make sure -- is this the same T you were writing about earlier, 7 months and 180 posts ago?
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Originally Posted by sw628
I thought the letter wasn't anything major, however her reaction shocked me. She appeared to look very nervous and confused. She just kept rambling on about doing what's best for the client and not causing further pain. She also used an example about certain clients that trigger real emotions in their therapist and so on. I believe I made her very uncomfortable. She said she was very confused and didn't have an answer....
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Made T Uncomfortable, 04-07-2009)
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Originally Posted by sw628
My T just sounds all too much like desk T, and i wonder if i am being manipulated into meeting her needs. I just can't get how hurt she looked as i was walking into session. The cold and sadness on her face. She didn't even get up to greet me. She most surely did not say hello. I felt so unwanted and unwelcome. I like mixed-up emotions suggestion to journal about what happened and bring that with me to next session. I felt as if she wanted me to leave just as soon as i had arrived. Her eyes were red and she teared up many times. I'm afraid to ever be angry at her again.
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I don't know that you're "being manipulated into meeting her needs" exactly but she does sound as if she continues to have issues around you. If you were to do everything necessary to avoid ever triggering her, I think you'd find yourself constantly walking on eggshells and there'd be very little room in your relationship for any actual therapy.
I understand that standard operating procedure for Ts who get triggered by their clients (as well as new Ts in general) is to get supervision. I wonder if your T has ever gotten around to doing anything of the sort about her (apparent) issues related to you. I could see setting ground rules such as no more than so many e-mails a week (or none at all), but to expect you to avoid saying anything that might trigger her or make her feel incompetent sounds unrealistic as well as counterproductive.