I will try, I really do look at her differently now. If it were any random 20 year old it would be different (at least in my eyes).

I've learned the hard way that in matters of the heart, some opinions are better left unspoken. When my brother called to tell me he was getting divorced after 8 years of marriage, I surprised him by being thrilled. I never liked his wife but I was always courteous to her. I still ended up being the bad guy because they got back together 2 years later.