Sounds like a communication problem perhaps? I used to work and my BF stayed home and took care of our son and most household chores. He cooked more than I did, he did more laundry than I did, but I never expected him to do ALL the housework. Does your husband expect you to do ALL household chores. That doesn't sound fair to me. There are going to be days that you don't feel like cooking, he doesn't feel like cooking, and the best option is take out or fend for yourself. What does he expect from you and himself?