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Originally Posted by darkrunner
I really like hearing about therapists who go above and beyond, like the one you described Sunrise, and Blue Moon's T, and everyone else who has described such experiences.
But I can't seem to get over this uncomfortable feeling. And this is why:
Doesn't this place a huge burden on the client to know when a T has their best interests in mind, and when the T's goals is exploitation?
In Sunrise's example, it seemed like that was a good T whose act of generosity was a great help to the client. But, what if the T was evil, and lent the money so that in the future the client would feel obligated in the future, to do something the T wanted? At the time of the loan of money, how is the client supposed to know and be able to judge the T's ultimate intentions?
Maybe I am thinking of this in the wrong way, and my experiences are coloring my ability to look at it objectively.
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thank you for this post, darkrunner. i share the same concerns as you. i remember when pdoc gave me his mobile number a few years ago and i completely freaked out (probably have a thread on it somewhere around here
) because the "normal" thing to do is call his reception, make an appt etc. now i just send him a text and we meet at a different spot than we did before.
i just find all of this very difficult. i have never been ill used by a therapist before, but i do have major trust issues with them - or pretty much anyone. my current T has asked me to do him a work-related favour (that would involve a few good days of work), and i'm happy to help but it does mean we stop being strictly client/therapist. and if he was an evil T (which i very much doubt; but then - if they do want to hurt you they make you feel special, right??) he could take things on a different course from there. he has already told me how i'm special, how we're alike, how he does things for me he doesn't do for others etc. he also emphasises how ethical he is with all of his clients.
i dont understand how someone in my position is meant to know.