Well, the past week has been intense with therapy.
We have decided in our mental house to de-construct the place.
All alters are in a conference room.
We have a tent outside under the stars to sleep in while not in the conference room. And we are trying to all stay present at the same time.
We are working with our T to chronologically go through all the individual trauma memories and "blend" them.

This is how we are doing this if anyone wants to try it in their own system:

1) Alter who holds the memory shows it to all other alters - even the little ones. But we are doing this in a very gentle way and not exposing the little one to any emotions of the other. Just a basic fact much like a news report.

2) The other alters each look at the time event and then share something they recall from the surrounding time. For example, our trauma of being chased by two teen boys on bikes and what followed is held mainly by Mick and her fragment alter Mik (without the c). This was a range of age 6-8. During that time, Little One has good memories of us watching drive in movies with our brothers and doing some other fun stuff. We also enjoyed watching Gilligan's Island - so we use that theme song as an auditory blending tool.

3) Once each alter has their own link (even if it is something from later on in life that they can in some way relate back to the trauma as a positive blender (try to use 3 positives for each negative), then they all feel and recall their own part all at the same time.

So far we have done this with two major segments. It is really starting to make me feel differently on the inside. More connected in some way.
It is not easy to do this at all and a bit frightening.
But everyone in the house agrees that this is best for our long term healing.

The benifit is that no alter is being asked to stop being who they are.
((( We with DID know that is NOT really an option! )))
Instead, it just allows full sharing between the people and open communication. There are no more secrets in the house.
And the alters are better able to understand why other alters behave the way they do. For us, this is a huge part of our healing.