my husband uses my bi-polar as an easy excuse for any discussion about the sad existance of our marriage. I'm doing the right things like seeing my Doc regularly, taking my meds, eating and sleeping right. He just doesn't love me anymore and I feel very unwelcome in my home. I've come to believe the issue is "he has issues." I've felt guilty that maybe my illness is our problem but I'm starting to believe he's the one with "real issues on communicating." I'm confused and hurt. Has anyone out there had a spouse use their illness over their heads as a way of not dealing with problems?