Saluki, I appreciate your comments. But it's interesting how quickly you've gone to her defense.

I should look at my priorities? Hmm. Frankly, I think not going into foreclosure is a priority. Eating is a priority. Not getting so sick I have to go to the hospital is a priority. These are realities right now.

If anything is selfish, it's complaining about not getting enough words of appreciation when we don't have enough money to pay the bills. Or watching TV instead of cleaning the house. Or playing on Facebook when I'm out going to yet another job interview, hoping to get enough of a raise to get us back in the black. Or sending the kids to school in dirty, smelly clothes instead of running a load of wash. Because this is the stuff that's going on.

I do think of her feelings. I think about them all the time. I think about how bad she and the kids would be hurting if we went completely broke. I think about how bad it would be for them if I quit religiously taking all these meds and going to all these psychiatrist and therapist visits and just fell apart. I think about how much I'd like to get her a housekeeper and a nanny--or just have the energy to do those tasks for her more often.

Believe me, it upsets me that she is unhappy. But it also upsets me that she doesn't show any concern for my feelings, doesn't express any appreciation for me, doesn't have my back on things like whether we'll still have a house next month.

I'm sorry, I'm not trying to ambush you. I made it sound like I was just miffed about an email...the situation is a lot deeper and uglier than that. I really do appreciate your comments!