You're right, I didn't mention it! We will be at 20 years soon, have been a couple for almost 25. Where did that time go??

My family is not in the loop on all my issues either. "Physical" problems like IBD, yes, but "intangibles" like bipolar, no. (I put those things in quotes because I think that is the perception!)

I agree, that support system really needs to be there--I don't think either of us is doing a very good support job right now, just kind of scraping by on the basics. I think if we communicated better and supported better, we would find we got more out of it than we put in.

I think you used a pretty good adjective for her attitude... My attitude is probably not the greatest either, but I feel I understand where mine is coming from mentally, and can work on it. It is hard to tell where her attitude is coming from, how much is physiological, how much is just resenting the situation we are in right now...heck, I don't know if she knows. We have to make some sense of that if she's going to feel better.