I really appreciate everybody's comebacks. Sorry about being so whiny when answers don't come fast enough; I'm going to have to learn to rely on resources other than a message board when I'm in need of immediate feedback.

My husband gave me a good message. I told him I was raised to respect my elders, and that's why I take what they said to me so seriously. He answered, "You're an elder now too, so respect yourself."

Byz, thanks for the link. I do have a therapist, but I didn't know where to turn in the middle of the night. I am familiar with cognitive therapy, but Dr. Burns only did 10 cognitive distortions. The other 5 are new to me. So I'm off to study it right now.