((((AtreyuFreak))))

Thank you for posting and for asking. I know that it is hard when one holds so much and the need for them to come forth to share is there. But through our experience, making one talk can be so damaging. When you are ready to handle the memories and all within feel you are, it will happen.

For us, we have one within, Victoria, who knows everything yet there seems to be no emotional attachment. She can tell things without all the emotion. It seems that many times she will step forth somewhat padding the way for others to come. She keeps everyone going and hold much of the safety part of our system.

It seems that when I am ready for something it is then brought forth by whoever needs to be heard. When we first moved it seemed so many were telling parts of the whole yet not going too far. Testing the waters and constantly asking many questions. No one was ever forced to talk or share. We were forced for so long to do things and to never tell, that to force was not something that would have been good for us. And talking takes time as they learn to trust and to open up.

Finding that co-consciousness helps as then they are not alone and are able to hear what needs to be heard. When one holds so much and another holds the memory only that can be okay too. Sometimes for us one would tell something as the memory and then the emotional part came later when we were able to deal.

For so long we believed that emotions were not possible and to have them would get us in trouble. Tears were never possible so to have the emotions was dangerous at first. Those within carrying the emotional part would not come forth for a long time. Knowing the emotion was there but not ever being able to get in touch with it for it was being kept safe until we came to a point that we felt it okay to even recognize them.

Recently, inside has found out through communicating that they were not alone. It seems we are no longer compartmentalized in that everyone knows others have been through things and some hold the same or parts of memories and others hold them alone. But none of them now are alone within but are together.

The last several nights they have been gathering around myself and holding me up when I felt I would crumble. It seems as though there is a collaberation going on that has never taken place. Waiting on those within to tell what is being held and sometimes it has not only to do with their readiness but also the readiness of myself.

Many told our friend and t things before I ever knew anything about them or what all was within. They were creating their own safety and trust over time. But no none has ever been forced to talk. I think forcing would make the problem worse as it takes time for them and you to be ready and to know that there is safety. And even then sometimes it comes out in bits and pieces.

We are at a critical point, a point where the deepest darkest secrets are kept. It is taking time and it is exhausting. But in order for those within and myself to be able to work through these we have to find that trust and not only trust in someone but within ourselves as well. Sometimes we trust one another but sometimes with what they carry, it is important for them to really feel safe within themselves and within you.

Just some thoughts and hoping that things are going okay for you all. Give yourself time and space to be able to do this work. It is not easy and sometimes it can be a long time to get it to come but in time it will. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps