I need some emotional support.
In the last 6 months, I've been seeing doctors, endocrinologists, gynos, and radiologists! I have a lump in my breast, and am going through a lot of diagnostic testing, so far no one knows what it is yet. My next step is to see a breast surgeon. His office is at the breast cancer clinic. The words "cancer clinic" and "surgeon" is scaring me, I am afraid of what he will say. I am afraid of surgery.
And on top of that, I have just been diagnosed with PCOS, because I can't seem to get pregnant. I have been through numerous tests for that, and am not done with the infertility problem. I have started medication to relieve some of my PCOS symptoms. The meds make me physically ill. I can't wait until I get adjusted to the meds.
I'm only 28.
The other night, I was crying a lot. My husband asked what was wrong. So, I told him that I feel alone, and am VERY tired! That I am incredibly stressed out. Mainly because of my undiagnosed breast lump in addition to my new job that I hate! I can't go back to my old job, because I am the main income earner, we cannot afford it. I feel like I have too much on my shoulders. I am the organizer of the household, who plans EVERYTHING! I asked him if her understood what I am going through, and his answer was that I don't understand what HE is going through! Of course I understand what he feels (I cared for my mother when she was dying of cancer 9 years ago), but he doesn't know that I am not telling him everything of what the doctors are telling me. I don't think he can handle the truth. I told him that they screened out cancer - it hasn't been. It feels like he's trying to compete with me, that his pain and stress is more important than mine, and I should quit whinning.
I explained to him that I need his support emotionally and around the house. He was very offended and told me if I don't like the way he is, them I should leave! I am very upset, and don't know what to do. He hasn't spoken to me since then, and doesn't sleep in the bed. I have appologized to him (which I don't think I should have too, but did anyways). But, he still is pissed off!
I need help, am I being to needy?
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