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Originally Posted by Tishie
I am an extreamly honest person with everything else I just want to know why I do it and how to stop it.
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Honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. It sounds like you have substituted trying to achieve healthy for convenience and ease.
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Originally Posted by Tishie
I cant cope with the fall out ie arguments if he gets upset or hurt by anything. I understand the issue is me not him I just find it hard to be honest in case he reacts.
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You say that you "can't" cope... If you truly "can't" cope with the fallouts, then you can't currently stop lying. If you are intent on stopping your lying with him then you must either learn to cope or he must learn to not be bothered by your honesty.