YES!! this is what I have just discovered too. except I didn't know how to put into words as you have so eloquently done. thank you for sharing this-- it is HUGE! (IMO)

Sounds like you are doing so much great work with your therapy. Good for you in showing your dad that you respect yourself and therefore ask for nothing less of others.

if I could I'd like to give all those that work so hard at this a trophy-- they so deserve it--
to you-- a true champion.

fins