Hi All-
I've been married to a police officer for 10 years now have two children together.

Here's my situation: my husband is a PO, works the midnight shift, works 4 days on - 4 days off and almost always works OT. He's a very good-looking man (lets not forget his uniform) and articulate, I am aware of numerous affairs that his co-workers have (he tiold me) and I know that the infidelity rate amongst shift workers and LE are higher than the general public.

My guts keep knawing at me that he is up to something. A few years back a neighbor woman sext-ed him and after I confronted him him said it was all her doing. I CHOSE to believe him. A few days later, we ran into this woman and she started taking to him and he chatted back. Needless to say, he got the full force of my ire. When I later asked him why he had spoken to her I was dumbfounded when he said he didn't want to appear rude to HER. He had chosen her feelings over mine.

So, with all the stats, the fact that he put another womans feeling over mine, and the OT - am I trying too hard to assume that he is behaving himself. I basically fight with myself to have faith that he's not getting into something. Am I niave like some of my girlfriends suggest? Do I trust my feelings or are my insecurities ruling me?