Hello, sluxmi. Please forgive yourself.

Do you and your husband love each other? Are you able to discuss relationship issues for the benefit of both of you?

My speculation is your husband is using your comment as a convenient way of dealing with a topic he is embarrassed about.

My suggestion is if you have marital problems beyond the sexual issue and your husband will not agree to counseling, perhaps it is time to ask yourself the Ann Landers question: "Would you be better off with him or without him?"

Good luck.