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My husband is angry with me because i told my sister and mother in law taht he has problems with erection and now we are living in same house but he has stopped having any sex with me for last two years although i have said sorry to him multiple times

i can understand why he would be upset. that is an issue thats between you and him and possibly a doctor(in case its a physical issue) perhaps at this point you could get a couples therapist to talk about it if you cant figure things out at home. good luck on working this out.

Hello sluxmi,

Welcome to PC. I understand you are in a position where maybe it would in hindsight have been better to mention it to the family doctor instead.

Many men have erectile dysfunction and in most cases it is due to back injury. This is one of the reasons viagra was created. If the issue is an emotional or mental one then viagra won't have any effect at all either way.

I do wonder if the marriage can be redeemed if it has been over 2 years and he hasn't relented or forgiven you. Maybe he stays for appearances I don't know (and I'm just guessing here too), but it also saves face for him if he doesn't have to try and so be embarrassed if he fails.

But I wouldn't take family into personal confidences like that, obviously it got back to him and that is the most humilliating thing for him. I'm sorry you are in such a situtaion but it's difficult to offer anything constructive 2 years after the incident; maybe one of the guys might be able to help you?

Hello, sluxmi. Please forgive yourself.

Do you and your husband love each other? Are you able to discuss relationship issues for the benefit of both of you?

My speculation is your husband is using your comment as a convenient way of dealing with a topic he is embarrassed about.

My suggestion is if you have marital problems beyond the sexual issue and your husband will not agree to counseling, perhaps it is time to ask yourself the Ann Landers question: "Would you be better off with him or without him?"

Good luck.