grieving process is very different from each person. some go through it quickly and some take years to get through it. seeking help is the right thing to do when you realize that its affecting your daily life. not doing the things you normally do or your mood changes. I have found it easy to hold it inside and appear strong on the outside hoping I don't go through the process (not wanting to accept the loss). I get relief by doing things my loss loved to do and going places that they liked also. try and do things that remind you of her. that might give you comfort inside and help you through the process.