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Old Oct 02, 2010, 07:02 AM
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Originally Posted by purple_fins View Post
Being that this culture is one that very much wishes to absolve most responsibilty for ones own actions.....
That is not how I see this culture. I see this culture as demanding responsibility (from others) without providing much in the way of support in upbringing so that people can accept responsibility naturally -- which is what I think people would do.

As for sexual "addiction", I have had for a long time what seems quite a different view of it. It signifies, as I see it, a deprivation, not an excess. People who are deprived in their own minds of the ability to recognize naturally-occurring sexual feelings and thoughts have to try to compensate for that by repeating sexual encounters over and over. And since the deprivation is in their minds, having sex over and over does not get at the root of the thought-censorship which is inside them, and it does not solve the problem. I see thought-censorship as a result of having learned as a child that sex is bad, and should not be thought about. So the thoughts, which at a certain age should find a straightforward outlet, have to find a hidden one.

In other words, I see sexual "addiction" as a sign of repression, not of excess sexuality. Too little sexual self-acceptance, not too much. That is why the "addiction" is compulsive: it never finds a true outlet and has to be repeated. It is not simple enjoyment, but frustration and suffering.
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