Well I have also experienced all of what you are stating. Maybe we could offer some help?

I know when it comes to money you need to give it over to someone you trust and put yourself on an allowance. Really it helps.

If you are effected negatively by money than do the work to earn it and allow a trusted person, your spouse, parents, a financial institution or consultant to pay your bills and give you so much per week or month.

Being in the fog? Well there is no direct answer to that. However I will suggest to try and reduce your obligations or expectations during those periods as best you can.

Your my wife hating you is a tough one-LOL although in reality I know that is not funny.