Thank you for the encouraging replies.

I also wish I knew what I am getting closer to. Maybe, how important touching is to me, and how I have been afraid of it at the same time. I'll post more about that in my "touch" thread.
I know I've been open and honest with my T. But so what? I'm not sure if she had to know all the feelings. Why did I have to tell her, for example, that the little part wanted to jump into bed between her and her husband? That I wanted her for myself. I don't know what good comes from the telling. Maybe that's the critic part. Apparently, T thinks there is a reason for telling her. But we don't get to it with my eyes open. I have to close my eyes to do the IFS stuff and get in touch with the child parts. Next session I will try to do that again.