I stumbled upon this forum a while ago and the stories I have read so far are truly heartbreaking: people in love with their therapist, people panicking because their therapists are going on vacation, people unable to understand that their therapists are doing a job...

I can see how romantic feelings toward a therapist would form, and I think they are quite normal, but I don't understand why intelligent people would embrace such feelings and not make an effort to bring themselves back to earth. Unless those people are "lucky" enough to have an unethical/ unprofessional therapist, their feelings are just going to eat them alive and possibly ruin their lives.

I've been there myself but unlike most of you I identified my emotions early on and instead of embracing them I made an effort to convince myself that my emotions were directed toward the wrong person. I still have a lot of work to do before I completely detach myself from my therapist, but I'm glad to know that at least I am making an effort to let the rational part of my brain control my life.

What I want to know from those of you who have been there is whether developing romantic feelings toward your therapist helped you in the long run. My guess is that you ended up worse off.