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Originally Posted by Elana05
Hi Distressed,
It is always scary to move away, but maybe it will also bring some relief. You deserve to be treated well. I know the family emotional abuse of which you speak. Hang in there. At least this separation will allow you to have some boundaries.... and peace and quiet. It doesn't mean you don't love your family - but that you need to be free. Just keep reaching out to those who you feel comfortable with. A good strategy is to find (possibly) some older people who can in a way be there for you. I have a few people who I call "surrogate parents." I became friends with them when I moved away from home and they are friends who are in their 60's - two single women and one couple. Be gentle with yourself. You are entitled to live in a supportive environment where you are not put down or scolded all the time and free from the constant worries of your mother, which you cannot mend.
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Hi thanks! I understand what you're saying but in India that doesn't happen. I'm scared to even open up to anyone here. If you speak against your family, you're the one thats seen as odd. They don't understand this kind of abuse that I have suffered at home because this is extremely common in India. A lot of families are extremely critical of their children.
Thats why I'm a bit lost as to who am I supposed to turn to? no one here lives alone. All the elders live with their families... And people talk, as in, pass all your information around in the neighborhood.
I hope I'm explaining it well, India is just so different than US. Extremely family oriented.
It even hurts me when people tell me, Oh why are you getting bored here? you have your sister!
And I have to respond, yes you're right. I can't tell them that my sister and I don't hang out together because we don't get along and because she doesn't want me to be friends with her friends because she's scared me and her friend will get close and kick her out of the group.
:'(