What is the purpose of therapy if not to discuss the "bad stuff"?


They'll die down, the feelings. They will. But I'm not even sure you would want them to die down all that fast. Because, I think, if you don't re-feel them fully, then you won't in the end get rid of them, which is the (to me) purpose of therapy. I could make comments here that might help put the feelings in perspective, but I won't because I don't think that would help you. I do sincerely think that would hurt you. All I'll say is that I've found it useful, from beginning through now in therapy, to keep in mind a sharp, focussed picture of where you want to go, where you need to be, what you want therapy to do for you. I have those so sharply before my eyes that I'd go through anything at all in therapy to get there.

Take care and Good Luck!