Wow, this thread sure has been busy! Will proceed from your question to me (because you asked, and I don't want to not answer you), though it seems to be going backwards, then move forward to the current point. (And add that I am glad you'll be getting counselling
and could not possibly agree more with Ryask's words of wisdom..."...be honest...with the therapist...even if you are not with yourself...because in the end you will be able to know for certain what the right course of action is for you...and be able to live with the results of your decisions..and the fastest way there is honesty." )
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Originally Posted by malapp1
I am very sorry for you. This has to be one of lifes most impossible adventures. Was there a time when you were not medicated, do you have clear recall of those times. Did you single out those close to you or was it just random. If, in her case, stress is truely a trigger, what would be your guess as to what will happen next. She is undoubtedly under severe stress, do you think she has at least momentary recall of events.
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First, said kindly...no need to be sorry for me. There was much time unmedicated --25 years. Clear recall? Yes and no. I knew when I was raging and what I was doing generally, but detail-wise, not so much.
Doesn't change the reality of the fallout from my actions. I needed to deal with that regardless of my state of mind at the time. Random. Flipped out more at home because spent more time there. It often involved no one ('cept myself of course...). I really could not guess what would happen next. Except in answering your most recent question (bottom of reply).
(Also feel the need to point out --not to you really, but anyone reading the thread (because it is such a common misconception and it's come up) that rage is
NOT diagnostic for BP, although it is not uncommon.)
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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
I think you need to talk to her, gently but firmly... that you cannot tolerate this forever. That she needs to take charge of her destiny... be there for her, but do not enable her in her behaviour... she may not be that delusional as you believe... she may or may not... if you are willing to forgive her just because she was "delusional", it's a two edged sword. She may start putting that label on all her behavior that came from mere irresponsibility...
it is a hard situation... but I don't believe that bipolar people are controled by their illness 24/7 and can therefor get away with anything... if it has gone on for so long, in such severity... she shares the blame.
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Agree with your assesment malapp, that VH has sound advice here.
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Originally Posted by malapp1
What will become of her is she continues on her same path? No meds etc...
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Nothing will change.