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Originally Posted by Wisdomseeker
I've been drawn to this conversation for days, wanting to comment but unsure that my words will be taken out of context.
This thread has many people concerned for this victim (I'm grateful for this community and your support of each individual and their continued healing and well being). . . though reading through it's entirety a couple of times, I'm not convinced that there might not be other underlying issues.
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When you get one side of a story that person has a tendency to make sure it comes out showing them in them best light possible.That's self preservation, that's normal human behavior. That doesn't mean the story is true or not true. I have no doubt in my mind that the relationship is troubled, and most likely from a combination of their behaviors, but that's not what he asked for help with. People normally don't comment on questions that have not been asked. It is not our place really...we are not proffessionals for the most part...just people..normal people who have problems..and sometimes have the ability or desire to comfort someone else in thier problems.
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Originally Posted by Wisdomseeker
What if . . . she does not have BP as he is attempting to have you all believe. Has there been a substantiated diagnosis or could it be that it his, and only his, perspective.
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Many many people post on these forums, some of their stories may be true, some of their stories may be a complete fabrication. it is nearly impossible to tell for certain. When people offer thier support for an individual they belive thier story, because if they didn't there would be no use replying.Without a sure way to tell, you have to go on...if it is true...how can i help, Instead of treating everyone with mistrust...where would we be..if no one believed anyone? We would not be here that's for sure..because this is a place of education and support.
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Originally Posted by Wisdomseeker
That possibly the viewpoint is exaggerated to suck in the audience and gain your support - many have replied with genuine concern. Just questioning?
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To what end. What is the benefit of "gaining our support", i mean if he needs attention so badly that he is willing to make up a story in hopes of gaining it then maybe he really does need that support.
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What if, she's been a victim herself of a person who wants dominance and just had a mental breakdown?What support would you then offer her?
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She would most likely be treated with the same concern, compassion and support as he has been treated with. She however has not made a post so offering words of advice to someone who is not reading it is a waste of time.
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Originally Posted by Wisdomseeker
-"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." - Aldous Huxley
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The quote is excellent, however we have only received the story from one side, so since we haven't heard her side...we are not ignoring her facts because in fact without her posting her side truly does not exist to us.How can we be asked to make a comment on her side if she hasn't posted?
I just wanted to add a few things, to me...you sound like someone who has been abused yourself so i don't want you to take my post as a personal attack on you. I am not trying to attack you, i see that your new here and i just hope you can find some support here.
The only reason i singled out your post to break down is because it stood out to me...as odd.