Hi,
Lately i've been dealing with a best friend/roomie and her mom. We've been best friends since 9th grade. and now are way past school. Her mom is always putting me down and saying i'm this horrible friend to her, and that i take advantage of her daughter, and that she wants me out of my best friends life. My best friend doesn't want that, tho she's not too nice herself either. just she states she doesn't want to loose me. But i'm about fed up and ready to just say f it and go. I feel like i'm the one being stepped on not the one doing the stepping here. I put a roof over her head and give her food (which is another issue), and buy her things all the time just because i like being nice and watching the excitement in her eyes like a little kid on christmas morning.
But recently shes been just assuming i'm doing everything for her.. like i was making dinner, then she came in and was grabbing some soup (which i bought for ME!) and then stood over my shoulder acting like i didn't know how to cook my own food and was like "why you using that pan?" and
Me: Because i can't get anything under the facet to wash any other pans.
Her: Then why don't you wash the dishes, bum!
(mind you, i was NOT the one who put the dishes there, NOR WAS I THE ONE WHO DIRTIED THEM!) ... Then later she comes in for MORE soup and i was over my anger for then and was like "well this will be ready in 25 minutes if you-" then she cut me off (i was gonna say if you would like a bowl of it, i'll share), and said "i know (like she expected this of me already), i'm just hungry now. i'll have some later too." and walked off to where i'm just fuming mad..
And everytime i try to explain any of this to her mother she calls me out and says i'm the horrible friend for trying to tattle on her, and i'm worse than an eneimy to her. (in a short, not aggressive way). So telling or informing her mom of the things just gets me dug in deeper with her. Then i over heard a convo today with them, cause she had her mom on speaker phone (it wasn't cause i was trying to be nosey, but after i heard the first few things then stormed off elsewhere). her mom pretty much asked if i was helping around the house any, and she told her mom "no, not really" in this really sulky like voice. IM THE ONE WITH THE BROKEN FOOT HERE!! gah! I'm suposed to be in bed with no weight on my foot, but this stuff is going on. I wanna just leave... LIKE NOW! .. and that LIKE NOW has been for a few weeks now.
Everyone tells me i should just move out, but theres part of me that doesn't want to hurt my best friend, because by me moving away from her, she will be hurt. (though as i keep getting more and more angry, that part is slowly going "who cares!!!")
And then theres the factor that i have no where to go, and have no way to get my stuff from here to there.
And all of this only discribes 10% of it, IF that.
I wanna cry, but am mad, and anxious all at the same time.