I am a bit confused by some of the information you stated regarding your wife and her being bipolar. Hope you can clarify, you state that she was taking an antidepressant and Prozac? Prozac is an antidepressant so what antidepressant was she taking? You also state that she was on Abilify, it is a fact that in many individuals suffering from depression Abilify is often also prescribed. To assume that someone who is taking Abilify is bipolar would be just that an assumption. Many medications are used for other reasons. I have read other posts and it appears that lithium, Depakote and Respidal are prescribed to those whose symptoms are severe. You say your wife is delusional and becomes violent and has even been arrested for domestic violence. I am wondering why she was not prescribed one of the above mentioned medications with her symptoms being severe. Alcohol and smoking pot have been used by her, did she hide this from you or did you indulge with her? Has she ever been able to hold a job, and run a household? It sounds like she must have since you say you have only been with her for 3 years. Both her children are bipolar? Have they been properly diagnosed? Has she been properly diagnosed or is this what you think she is suffering from? You don't mention any support for yourself, do you have family to help support you? I understand you lost your first wife but what about sibling or your parents? Your posts have made me curious and have inspired me to post these questions to you.