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Hi Cat ~ I'm sorry this is happening. Obviously, he is still being very affected by the abuse he suffered as a teen. This is so tragic.
This is going to take a LOT of patience on your part if you're going to remain with him. PLEASE don't take this personally, as it has NOTHING to do with YOU. Sure, it hurts - but you are not part of the problem at all -- I'm sure of it. His problem goes much further back, and it much deeper. He is going to HAVE to get some therapy to learn how to deal with the previous abuse and learn how to bury it. It may take quite a while. I hope your relationship can stand the wait.
I don't care how you do it - whether you have to beg, plead, bribe, whatever, but you've got to get him into therapy. His whole future and yours too depends on his getting help. It can affect everything he does, in some way or another. So urge him to make a call. God bless and please take care of you. Hugs, Lee
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