Sometimes I think the harder we try to get a certain response we get a power struggle.....can you all compromise...have the tamalies and say ok time can be sayyyy 4 ....or chuck the whole menu and say..ya know I dont wanna fight with you all and I know you dont ...lets all pick 2 foods and supply them and meet time wise in the middle? I have no family anymore Sept and would eat rice to be with them at any time even THEY chose..in time these issues will all be so moot to all of you...JUST enjoy one another ..I hope this doesnt sound harsh its NOT meant to be but man this looks like a power struggle of times and foods...sad