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Originally Posted by Luce
I am wondering why you were seeing your therapist in a cafe type situation. Is that a regular place for you to meet? There may well be a perfectly good explanation for why you see your t there, but meeting a current t in a public place doesn't seem appropriate to me.
The fact that T followed you into the bathroom is a very clear violation of boundaries to me, and I would have been intensely upset and triggered by that. That could be just my stuff coming through (one of my abusers refused to allow me privacy for bathroom functions, so for me this clearly crosses my boundaries). I have to say though I am REALLY surprised that others here do not seem to see your T following you to the bathroom to *listen*(!) as a violation. To me, checking to make sure you are not purging is not reason enough to violate your boundaries, especially since you had told her you didn't want her to follow you. To me, she did NOT have the right to invade your privacy in that manner.
Did it bother you a great deal? I am not getting why others don't see that as a violation.
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I got the impression that this was a therapeutic outing to a cafe as part of the treatment for the eating disorder. I don't think it would be appropriate unless it was for that reason.
PTSD, If you were there for that kind of specific exposure type situation, it is easy to see why your therapist would be concerned that you would go purge. Especially since you first mentioned that you felt like puking and when your therapist said you'd be fine, then you suddenly needed to go pee. I can see why the therapist didnt trust you, even if you did really just intend to pee.
If it was just a casual meeting to meet at a cafe to eat and talk, then that seems inappropriate to me, and pretty outrageous to want to listen to you in the bathroom. Are you telling us everything here?