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Originally Posted by Luce
I am wondering why you were seeing your therapist in a cafe type situation. Is that a regular place for you to meet? There may well be a perfectly good explanation for why you see your t there, but meeting a current t in a public place doesn't seem appropriate to me.
The fact that T followed you into the bathroom is a very clear violation of boundaries to me, and I would have been intensely upset and triggered by that. That could be just my stuff coming through (one of my abusers refused to allow me privacy for bathroom functions, so for me this clearly crosses my boundaries). I have to say though I am REALLY surprised that others here do not seem to see your T following you to the bathroom to *listen*(!) as a violation. To me, checking to make sure you are not purging is not reason enough to violate your boundaries, especially since you had told her you didn't want her to follow you. To me, she did NOT have the right to invade your privacy in that manner.
Did it bother you a great deal? I am not getting why others don't see that as a violation.
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I would absolutely think of it as a violation for me!
I'm quite private and would absolutely hate it. However, my earlier post has only to do with putting forth a reason that the T would do this in ptsd's cse......if it is an exposure type therapy situation for the purpose of working on eating disorder, then the T's behavior is understandable, though it definitely would be uncomfortable and feel like a violation and actually IS a violation under typical circumstances! I'm going to withhold judgment because I don't know the whole picture here though.....
Whatever the full story, I do sympathize with ptsd's discomfort in the situation and feelings of hurt for not being trusted. I do understand that....even tho I think it's possible the T's action wasn't totally unwarranted. So I was sort of looking at it in both lights....