It's okay, I am sorry I am a little sensitive to all of this. Two weeks ago I told my T I am going to get a sepapartion in '06. I kept that idea for 2 weeks, and now I am rethinking it all. It is so hard "leave " someone who you invested 12 years with and have two great kids. Why is he just allowing our marriage to go to pot? I just don't get it. My T says my life can be so much better, but I am looking at it like it could get a whole lot worse.