Wow, Distressed2010 -- way to go! I am so glad you confronted your abuser. I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult that must have been.

It sounds like Leed has given you some wonderful advice. I wish I had some wise words to add. I'm new here -- I wanted to offer my support. You sound like a good, kind, and STRONG person, and I think you should be very proud of yourself!

Boy, I can sure identify with wanting to have had a different childhood. I grew up with two alcoholic parents, and I have wasted a good deal of my life (I just turned 43) wishing I could have had a normal childhood.

I'm sending you a hug, too
Hang in there!