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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
how your T is doing therapy withyou, what your T thinks about you in relation to your therapy and these are good, non-boundary crossing questions. If your T feels like you have asked a boundary-crossing question about her or her feelings, probably she's going to tell you she can't answer that question.....
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What about "do you like working with me", that would be about me in therapy but her feelings towards me.
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Originally Posted by treehouse
(like "can I go through your other clients' files?"), it was so freeing. Because I never got in trouble for asking, T answered what he wanted to, and it just made everything feel a lot safer and more okay.
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Haaa, oh treehouse, how wonderful you asked those questions!! I would have loved to be there and see your T's reaction!! I'm not sure my T would be ok with such questions, that's why I worry so much. She hasn't always been very hmm... objective.
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Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats
Definitely!! Go right ahead and ask a way. You have a right to know what is going on with your current treatment!
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thanks, will do!
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Originally Posted by sunrise
This sounds great. Do you think her words do or don't match the vibe she projects? I think sharing this with your T could be illuminating for her.
If she does not have at least an idea on how to help you, then better to learn this now rather than later, so you can find a different T who does know how to help, has a bigger skill set, etc.
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Hm, sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. I know what makes her laugh, what makes her smile. I just haven't found that one thing that makes her eyes go soft. I once had about 5 minutes with her where her 'vibe' was fantastic- full of caring and empathy, it was like warm waves hitting the beach. sigh... no idea what I said to push that button
the second part of your quote: yes, that Is true. better sooner than later!
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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
treehouse! That is hilarious. I have asked the same question. I put it in the subject line of an email.
Sailboat~as to your question: I think you should ask anything you need to know (that is within the boundaries of therapy). Your therapist should be open and honest enough to answer them. If you still get a bad vibe, I would go to someone else.
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Squiggle, I bet your T laughed seeing this subject line!
Thanks! I'll do that.